If you’re like most American adults, you probably have sex about once a week. However, quantity isn’t a substitute for quality. It’s important that you learn how to have good sex when a boring roll in the hay won’t cut it.

Here, we’re going to give you some sexy tips so you can have fun and pleasurable foreplay before diving in. Read on to learn some foreplay basics for any couple.

1. Ask What Your Partner Likes

One of the main mistakes people make regarding foreplay is trying to plow through it too quickly. Lots of couples treat it as a ‘pre-sex’ requirement instead of as a fun time to play and explore.

It’s important that you don’t think of foreplay as being a precedent to anything, even if it leads to penetrative sex in the end. Foreplay is a kind of sex and doesn’t always need to be the appetizer before the meal. If you know what you’re doing, it can even be better than penetrative sex.

This is because it’s a time to learn more about your partner, talk to them, play around, and try new things together. The best way to have better foreplay is to communicate with the person you’re having sex with!

Ask them what feels good to them and what they want to try. You’ll be able to experiment and learn more about your bodies and your relationship.

It’s also a good idea to remember that orgasm doesn’t always need to be the end-all-be-all of sex. While finishing is always nice, you can try new things and enjoy the feeling of being turned on.

Pleasure should be the goal of sex, not coming. If you think of it this way, you’ll be released from a lot of pressure and can just focus on what makes both of you feel good.

2. Try Out a Strip Tease

Sometimes, the best way to spice things up isn’t even to touch each other in new ways. There are tons of awesome foreplay activities that don’t even involve touching.

This can be extremely fun in a lot of ways. There’s nothing like the reward of a touch after some teasing and denial.

Get some sexy lingerie and put it on under your clothes. You can wear a sexy costume or not – it’s totally up to you and what turns you on. You can then have your partner sit on one side of the room while you crank up some hot music and slowly take your clothes off.

Make sure that you move in sexy ways. Get closer to your partner over time and give them a lap dance if you feel up to it. This is an extremely fun way to get both of you aroused.

If you’re into some power play, you can also tie your partner up during the strip tease. This will remind them that the no-touching rule is very much in place even when you get close or show off your assets.

3. Play With Power

Every healthy relationship is based on an equal partnership and mutual respect. But sometimes, it’s fun to role-play, and power dynamics are no exception.

Try having one person address the other as ‘ma’am’ or ‘sir.’ This is a great verbal indicator that there’s going to be a power-related scene coming. (Fun fact: the non-binary equivalent is Mx, pronounced ‘mix’)!

Bondage gear can also go a long way here. Having one person be tied up while the other can do anything they like can be mind-blowing. If the free partner is fully clothed while the tied-up one is totally in the buff, that also can set a tone.

Just make sure that you always have a safe word in place. This will make sure that everyone is having a good time and feels good about what’s happening. After all, consent is the #1 most important thing in any sexual encounter.

4. Masturbate Together

Mutual masturbation (also known as handjobs or fingering) can be a ton of fun. You can give and get instructions on how to better pleasure the other person. It’s a top-notch learning experience and it’s super hot to boot.

But you can also simply jerk yourselves off while sitting next to each other. You might like to sit on opposite sides of the bed and watch the other person get themselves off. You might also like to sit next to each other and see the way that your partner plays with themselves, trails their own hands across their body, and more.

This is a great way to build anticipation and get excited about the main event.

Dry humping is another great way to masturbate together. Have one partner hump the other’s leg while fully clothed. Watch their face twist in pleasure as they beg for more.

5. Give Great Oral

Oral sex is one of the best types of foreplay. It’s also a type of sex in and of itself, just as all foreplay sex acts are. Still, there’s nothing nearly as enticing as tasting and smelling your partner… or watching them go down on you.

If one of you has a vagina, oral sex is especially important. It can give a lot of clitoral stimulation, which means a lot of explosive pleasure. In fact, it’s one of the most reliable ways to give anyone with a vulva the chance to finish.

If both partners have penises, oral sex is still pretty great. There’s a lot you can do with a tongue and a penis, from licking just the tip to kissing all along the base before moving down.

Beyond Sexy Tips and Advice

Foreplay is often underrated, but it’s one of the main ingredients in any recipe for good sex. Now that you know some sexy tips and tricks for how to have awesome foreplay, it’s time to start having the best sex of your life.

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